My husband and I have been married just over 3 years now, and even though it’s been short, our marriage has been wonderful. While we’ve faced some pretty big life obstacles in our short years of matrimony (multiple job location changes, serious illness, moving multiple times, purchasing our first home, extensive travel…), none of those events has been anything like welcoming a baby into our family and home. With that in mind, we wanted to take our last few months together to really work on our relationship before we go from a couple of two to a family of three.
We are ecstatic to welcome Baby Girl in just a few short months, but we know that our life is about to be changed in ways that we never could have imagined. So, we’re doing what we can now to strengthen our relationship before she makes her grand appearance. Here are a few ways we’ve been strengthening our relationship as we await the arrival of our Baby Girl, I hope you find them helpful as well.
1. Spending Extra Time Together
In our many moves and with Barnabas being involved in the opening of several hotels over the past two years, we haven’t always had a lot of time to just be together. Thankfully, this summer we have not had to do any work-related travel (and we aren’t in the process of moving), so we’ve been able to spend some extra time together. He has actually even been able to take a few impromptu days off to spend with me (and to work on things around the house). Being that one of my love languages is quality time, this extra attention has been invaluable.
2. Reading Devotionals Together
Before we even started dating, Barnabas and I came together as accountability partners reading Romans 8. Since then reading devotionals and studying different passages together has been a great way for us to connect. We’re currently working through Sacred Marriage, and it’s been one of the best ones we have done yet.
3. Maintaining Weekly Date Nights
As soon as we married, we started the habit of having a weekly date night, and that is something we’ve continued to this day. It honestly is one of the days I look forward to most each week, so we’ve made it a real point to be faithful to setting aside that time in the last few months. We plan to continue this practice even once Baby Girl arrives although we know “date night” may look a bit different with a newborn. 😉
4. Making Decisions Together
We’ve always made it a point to discuss and make decisions together, but we’ve tried to renew our focus on this type of decision-making over the past few months. It means a lot to me that my husband is willing to help me make decisions regarding things as simple as the paint color or fabric choice for the nursery. But, it also helps him feel more involved in the preparation process and pregnancy, so it’s important for us both.
Having a baby can change a husband and wife relationship significantly, but it is something you can prepare for. These are a few of the ways we’ve been strengthening our relationship as we get ready to have our baby, and you can too!
What are some of the ways you’ve worked on your relationship in preparation for a new baby (or other significant life change)?